“Why does God allow me to suffer?”

Oh, my heart. Today my heart just aches for those around me who go through suffering. The conversations, texts, phone calls, messages, I have had just in the past couple of days is enough to bring me to my knees in prayer for the pain that other people go through. There is something so powerful in sharing in our weakness and our struggles with those around us. I can truly say that I am blessed to know and be a part of every story of struggle that I know. It breaks my heart to hear what some of my girlfriends or friends of my family are dealing with, but I am honored and grateful to be a prayer warrior for them and it makes me proud of them to see them willing to share in their hurt.

In my personal experience, every time I knew I needed to ask for prayers, when I needed to confide in someone, when I needed comfort; a lump grew in my throat that caused me to become silent. I wanted to push my feelings inward. I would literally start sweating, well mostly pitting. (You know that nervous pit you get? Tell me I’m not the only one?) It was a debilitating feeling that would come over me when I wanted to speak about how much I was struggling, when I wanted to ask for help. When I still need to ask for help.

To ANYONE who is going through a valley in their life, I pray so hard that you overcome that fear to be vulnerable. That is satan in his best disguise, using your own fear against you. He wants us to be quiet, he wants us to feel crippled, crazy, alone, like our struggles are unimportant, that people won’t ‘get it.’ This is what he does. Satan works in amazing ways in the world we live in today, he wants to use the way we portray our lives against us. Everyone wants to portray the perfect family, the perfect home, perfect relationship, with pictures and posts all over the screens we stare through 24/7. But in reality we ALL need help. We all go through suffering at some point in this life. Our society has got to stop using these perfect facades as a way to detour our confessions of struggle. By doing this we are letting the enemy win.

“My grace is sufficient for you,, for my power is made perfect in weakness,. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weakness, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weakness, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12: 9-10

How dare we let the enemy silence our weakness. I pray that whatever struggles, no matter how small or big they may be, that fear and doubt flees your heart and you are able to stand boldly and proclaim your weakness so the Lord will give you His strength. I can think back on many occasions, where I sat in my bible class, my ladies group, dinner with a friend, a phone conversation with my family, etc, where I felt satan grasp hold of me. He wanted me to be silent on speaking, silent on asking for help, or silent on just crying or being angry and showing my true emotions. There were times where I let him win. There were times where I let that unwanted overwhelming feeling fester in my heart and my mind. When I let him win that festering prolonged. Sometimes hours, sometimes days, sometimes weeks at a time. It was crippling. BUT the times I didn’t let him win….those are the times that stick with me. The times I let the tears flow or I got angry and I spoke out for help. The times I admitted how weak I was, how sad I felt, and how fearful of the future I was….those are the times where the burden was lifted. I left that class, that study, the conversation, feeling 10 times lighter. It’s truly remarkable how God really does give us his strength when we boast in our weakness.

A question I had for the longest time and needed an answer to was “Why does God allow me to suffer?”

The answer I came up with – “To refine me.”

“I have refined you, but not as silver is refined. Rather I have refined you in the furnace of suffering.” Isaiah 48:10.

“You have allowed me to suffer much hardship, but you WILL restore me to life once again, and lift me up from the depths of the earth. You will restore me to even greater honor and comfort me once again.” Psalm 71:20-21 – Notice, he did not say, you “might” restore me, “I hope” you restore me….but you WILL restore me. When we go through hardship, do we believe this?

When you think about life, what do you think makes a bigger impact on you? Laughter or sadness? Think about it. We all know which one of these would be more enjoyable, right?

Ecclesiastes 7:3 tells us “Sorrow is better than laughter, for sadness has a refining influence on us.” Think on that. Sadness has a refining influence on us. Our God does not want us to hurt, he does not want us to suffer, he does not want us to be in pain, but he does want us to be refined IN HIM. Do I think God wanted me to lose our baby? Do I think he wanted you to lose your baby? Do I think he wants your marriage to fall apart? Do I think he wanted your parent to get cancer? Do I think he wants you to have an incurable illness? NO. I believe our God hurts for and with us. He collects each and every one of our tears in a bottle. You are his daughter, you are his son, we are the children of the most high God. He doesn’t want us to be suffering, but I truly believe he wants us to be refined in that sorrow. He wants us to draw close to him. He longs for us to long for him when life caves in on us, because this home is not our true home. We are called to something greater, to be somewhere greater, and that’s where we have to look up and keep our eyes focused, through the good and the bad.

I will leave you with this verse from Romans, I could elaborate my feelings on this, but there is no need. You take from it what you need to fit your life, to produce the endurance that you need to get you through hardship or to encourage those around you to get through theirs. I’ll let you elaborate on this one….

“Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Romans 5:3

91 Replies to ““Why does God allow me to suffer?””

  1. Wonderful website you have here but I was wanting to know if you knew of any message boards that cover the same topics talked about in this article? I’d really love to be a part of community where I can get advice from other experienced individuals that share the same interest. If you have any recommendations, please let me know. Cheers!

  2. Appreciating the commitment you put into your site and detailed information you present.
    It’s good to come across a blog every once in a while that isn’t the same outdated rehashed material.
    Great read! I’ve saved your site and I’m adding
    your RSS feeds to my Google account.

  3. Write more, thats all I have to say. Literally, it seems as
    though you relied on the video to make your point.
    You clearly know what youre talking about, why waste
    your intelligence on just posting videos to your
    weblog when you could be giving us something enlightening to read?

  4. Do you mind if I quote a couple of your articles
    as long as I provide credit and sources back to your webpage?
    My website is in the very same niche as yours and my visitors would certainly
    benefit from some of the information you provide here.
    Please let me know if this okay with you. Thanks!

  5. Right here is the right website for everyone who wants to understand this topic.
    You know a whole lot its almost hard to argue with you (not that I personally would want to…HaHa).
    You certainly put a brand new spin on a subject which has
    been discussed for years. Great stuff, just excellent!

  6. Howdy, i read your blog occasionally and i own a similar one and i was
    just wondering if you get a lot of spam comments? If so how do you prevent it, any plugin or anything you can advise?
    I get so much lately it’s driving me insane so any help is very much appreciated.

  7. hello!,I like your writing so so much! percentage we communicate more approximately your
    article on AOL? I need a specialist on this space to unravel my problem.

    Maybe that is you! Taking a look ahead to look you.

  8. Hey! Do you know if they make any plugins to assist with Search Engine Optimization? I’m trying to get my blog to rank for some targeted keywords but I’m not seeing very good results.
    If you know of any please share. Appreciate it!

  9. It’s a pity you don’t have a donate button! I’d most certainly donate to this brilliant blog!
    I guess for now i’ll settle for bookmarking and adding your RSS feed
    to my Google account. I look forward to new updates and will share this blog
    with my Facebook group. Chat soon!

  10. Howdy! I could have sworn I’ve been to this website before but after
    looking at a few of the articles I realized it’s new to me.
    Anyhow, I’m certainly pleased I found it and I’ll be book-marking it and checking back regularly!

  11. A motivating discussion is definitely worth comment.
    I think that you ought to write more about this issue, it may not be a taboo
    matter but typically people do not speak about these issues.
    To the next! Cheers!!

  12. Great post. I was checking constantly this blog and I’m impressed!
    Very helpful information specifically the last part 🙂 I care for such info a
    lot. I was looking for this certain information for a long time.

    Thank you and best of luck.

  13. I loved as much as you will receive carried out right here.
    The sketch is attractive, your authored material stylish.
    nonetheless, you command get bought an edginess over that you wish be delivering the following.

    unwell unquestionably come more formerly again as exactly the same nearly a lot often inside case you shield this increase.

  14. Hey there! Someone in my Myspace group shared this site with us so I came to look it over.
    I’m definitely enjoying the information. I’m bookmarking and will
    be tweeting this to my followers! Terrific blog and wonderful design and style.

  15. First off I would like to say awesome blog! I
    had a quick question in which I’d like to ask if you don’t mind.
    I was curious to know how you center yourself and clear your thoughts
    before writing. I have had a tough time clearing my mind in getting my thoughts out there.

    I truly do enjoy writing however it just seems like the first 10 to 15
    minutes tend to be wasted simply just trying
    to figure out how to begin. Any suggestions or hints?
    Thank you!

  16. We absolutely love your blog and find almost all of
    your post’s to be just what I’m looking for.
    Do you offer guest writers to write content to suit your needs?
    I wouldn’t mind producing a post or elaborating on some of the subjects you write related to here.
    Again, awesome site!

  17. I’m not sure exactly why but this site is loading incredibly slow for
    me. Is anyone else having this issue or is it a issue on my end?
    I’ll check back later on and see if the problem still exists.

  18. Admiring the commitment you put into your website and in depth information you present.
    It’s nice to come across a blog every once in a while that isn’t the same unwanted rehashed information. Fantastic read!
    I’ve saved your site and I’m adding your RSS feeds to my
    Google account.

  19. Have you ever considered publishing an e-book or guest
    authoring on other websites? I have a blog centered on the same ideas you discuss and would love to have
    you share some stories/information. I know my
    readers would appreciate your work. If you are even remotely interested, feel free to send me
    an e mail.

  20. It is actually a great and helpful piece of information. I’m glad that you just
    shared this helpful info with us. Please stay us informed like this.
    Thanks for sharing.

  21. Magnificent beat ! I wish to apprentice at the same
    time as you amend your website, how can i subscribe for a weblog web site?
    The account aided me a appropriate deal. I were tiny bit acquainted
    of this your broadcast provided shiny clear concept

  22. Excellent blog here! Also your website loads up very fast!
    What web host are you using? Can I get your affiliate link to your host?
    I wish my web site loaded up as quickly as yours lol

  23. I do agree with all of the concepts you’ve offered to
    your post. They are really convincing and will
    definitely work. Nonetheless, the posts are very brief for
    starters. May you please lengthen them a bit from next time?
    Thanks for the post.

  24. Thanks for the good writeup. It in truth was once a enjoyment
    account it. Look complicated to far brought agreeable from you!
    By the way, how could we keep up a correspondence?

  25. I was recommended this website through my cousin. I’m now not
    certain whether this publish is written by way of him as nobody else
    recognize such distinctive about my difficulty. You are wonderful!
    Thanks!

  26. Having read this I believed it was rather informative.
    I appreciate you spending some time and energy to put this short article together.
    I once again find myself personally spending way too much time both reading and leaving comments.
    But so what, it was still worth it!

  27. Wonderful blog! Do you have any tips and hints for aspiring writers?

    I’m planning to start my own blog soon but I’m a little lost on everything.
    Would you propose starting with a free platform like WordPress or go for a paid option? There are so many options out there that I’m completely
    confused .. Any ideas? Cheers!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *